From today’s Chicago Tribune Ask Amy column:

Dear Amy: Five years ago, I saw my wife’s social website profile, which implied she was single.

She refused to talk about it, so I put a keystroke logger on our computer and caught her in a one-night stand with a friend from high school. She swore she would never do it again, offered me her passwords and closed her Facebook account.

Two years later, I became suspicious again. Again she avoided talking, so I put a tape recorder in her car and discovered she had been going to a motel with another married man.

A few weeks ago, I was dropping a movie off at the library when I noticed my wife was on a public computer. She was obviously flustered when I said hello.

Yesterday, I had a friend go to the library to see what she was doing. She was emailing, but from a secret email account. I knew her passwords for her four other email accounts.

Is her using a secret email account justified?

I was slowly beginning to trust her again, but seeing her sneaking to the library every day to use a public computer seems like a huge setback. Is it better to find out if she is having an affair first or talk (and fight) now, when I can only confirm this secret computer usage?

We have two children, and I’m afraid of acting prematurely. But if it’s another affair, I definitely want out now.

— Hurt Husband

Seriously, dude, you need to grow a pair (and not horns, either).  Read the entire column here.